I don't know about you, but I think the last time I saw the whole bottom of my closet was before we moved in here...like when we were viewing the apartment before we signed the lease. That was...over a year ago!
That's not the only part of my home that's cluttered. Every surface is cluttered. Yes, I know, I'm supposed to have a beautiful home, like the cover of a magazine, because I'm a decorator. Right? Sorry to disappoint you, but it's far from that. While I've been slowly changing out old frat house looking furniture for a grown adult look, I've been fighting the clutter like a plow in a snowstorm. I've donated literal truck loads of stuff, and somehow it feels like I'm living in the Room of Requirement at Hogwarts.
No, not the Dumbledore's Army, clean, vast version.
The, "home to all the lost junk in the history of one thousand years" version.
Honestly, I've been living like this since I was a kid. I've never been able to shake it off. For years, I've held on to things for a million reasons, and it's about time I confronted them. Let's just suffice it to say, decluttering is emotional for me, as I expect it is for a lot of you.
I've decided, for my sake, and for the sake of all of you who identify with clutter-y lives, to dive in to the KonMari method of decluttering, and say goodbye to stuff.
Her basic premise is, if something doesn't bring you joy, get rid of it. She says, declutter, then organize. She also talks a lot about the psychology of why we hold on to stuff, and how it reveals how we hold on to the past, or harbor fear of the future. Deep stuff, folks. Real deep.
That being said, it's going to be tough, and I'm gonna cry and get super overwhelmed, but I want to change my life. I want to show you, friends, that if I can do it, you can do it, too. So, I'll be documenting the whole process, ugly clutter photos and all (see, I already proved I will based on that first photo), just for you! I'll share my thought process, tough decisions, final storage ideas, and lovely, finished photos.
So let's dive in right now. Her first requirement is that I state the reasons why I want to declutter; in other words, visualize my destination. What kind of lifestyle do I want, and why? Now, remember, these are my personal reasons and are meant as an example of Marie's instructions. Your's, I'm sure, will be different ;) And it's long and detailed, I'm just warning you!
Reason's Why I Want to De-Clutter
- I want it to be easier to clean (vacuum, dust, wipe counters, scrub bathroom)
- I want to feel comfortable inviting people over
- I want my home to look neat and beautiful
- I don't want my dog to chew on stuff she shouldn't
- I want my mind to relax and not be filled with chaos
- I want to have more time for prayer and devotions, and be able to exercise
Why Are These Reasons Important? (Marie says, for each answer above, I have to ask why five times.)
- (I want it to be easier to clean): I don't want my house to smell. I don't want my clothes to smell. I don't want to smell bad to other people. I don't want people to disapprove of me. I want friends.
- (I want to feel comfortable inviting people over): I don't want our guests to feel gross when they see fur-balls, dust, and junk. I like making people feel comfortable and luxurious when they come over. I like to feel that way at other people's homes. It feels lovely to be in luxury and be clean. Luxury and cleanliness allows for comfortable conversation and makes people want to come back.
- (I want my home to look neat and beautiful): I want to feel like I live in a luxurious place. I want to feel cozy and content when I'm home. I don't want to stress about cleaning. I want to be able to do other things, like read with some tea or hot cocoa. I want more room for cozy blankets and silky sheets and soft pillows. I want to ease my mind.
- (I don't want Penny to chew on stuff she shouldn't): I don't want her to get hurt or need to spend lots of money on vet bills. I love her and want her to be healthy and want to save money. I want her to live a long life and I want to use money for other things like stuff for the house or vacations. She deserves to be taken care of well and taking vacations is fun. She is a living creature made by God and vacations build relationships with husband, family, and friends.
- (I want my mind to relax and not be filled with chaos): I need to be able to think clearly. I need to be able to plan and execute projects/tasks. I need to get things done for my business and personal life. I want to grow and learn. I want to live my life fully, to do the things God is calling me to and not waste my life.
- (I want to have more time for prayer and devotions, and be able to exercise): I want to grow my relationship with God and to feel healthy. I want to know and trust God more and I don't want to be sick and broken. God is who gives me life and purpose and I want to have more time to do life and not be physically limited when I'm older. God created me, and I want to give my kids and husband good memories. God loves me and I want my kids and husband to live LOVED, know family, and be happy.
Wow, that....took a while. But it was worth it. I can more clearly see what I want out of life and what is important to me. Somehow, eating more donuts didn't make it on to this list. I might need to go back and make some changes, because I always want more donuts.
What about you? What reasons do you have for wanting to de-clutter? Ask yourself why until you get to the underlying reason. You might just learn something new about yourself today!
THANK YOU for enduring that! I'll let you go now to make some new year's resolutions of your own.
I'll be back next week with my first post about actually getting some decluttering done. Thanks, friends, and chat soon!